To celebrate the anniversary of my memoir Unmasked, my publishers just released a brand new edition.
It’s a new edition because of our new, ummm, addition – aka, Hakavai! I’ve included some new chapters detailing life since Hak was born, so if you haven’t yet read Unmasked this is the version you should read!
In the lead up to release of this new edition, a few journalists have been in touch, keen to know the “secret” to mine and Michael’s relationship.
That’s nothing new. For years now, people have asked us questions like this, and made lots of comments about how we “make it work” too.
The majority of commenters have said to me, in one way or another, “You’re so lucky to have Michael”.
But I don’t necessarily agree.
Yes, Michael is definitively, and without a doubt, a pretty top bloke. He’s kind, humble, self-effacing, generous and loyal. He makes me a better person.
But luck … nah.
I don’t like how the idea of luck absolves you of any personal responsibility.
My philosophy on relationships is pretty simple. In order to be with the right person, YOU have to be the right person!
What I mean by that is, are you being the person you want to be with?
If you want a relationship that is full of outdoorsy adventures with someone who is mature and in touch with their emotions – are you mature, in touch with your emotions and taking part in outdoorsy adventures?
Now, let me be clear. This is not about changing who you are to become someone you’re not. It’s about being the person YOU want to be, and living the life YOU want to live.
It’s about letting go of this idea that when we find the right person, our lives will fall into place too.
When really it’s the other way around.
It’s your personal responsibility to live the life you want to live – not wait for someone to show you how. – Tweet it!
So, today, that’s the question I want to ask you.
Whether you’re looking for a partner, or married with quintuplets, ask yourself this:
“Am I being the person I want to be with?”
Be honest in your response.
After all, we all need a little self-evaluation from time to time. Use it to help you stretch and grow.
And let me know answer in the comments below!
PS If you’re keen to read the new edition of Unmasked, I’ve bundled up signed copies of it for you here.