Here’s something you need to know about me:
I’m “different”, not “disfigured”.
I’m a “burns survivor”, not a “burns victim”.
I’m “strong-minded”, not “pushy”.
Can you see the difference in the words I choose to describe myself with?
Early on in my recovery, I decided that the words I used to describe myself would not be negative. Not then, not ever.
The word “disfigured” makes me feel limited, so I never use it. And if other people use that word, I gently remind them that no, I’m not disfigured, I just look a bit different.
I wanna know – are you taking the same approach?
Are you choosing the words you use to describe yourself?
The words we use have so much power. Whatever we think – our brain creates. So if you’re constantly using words that bring yourself down, well guess how you’re gonna feel? (Hint: it’s not up!)
The reverse is also true – using more positive words to describe ourselves is gonna make us feel a hell of a lot better.
Today, I want you to really think about this.
And here’s an activity that will help you do that.
- I want you to think of a word you use to describe yourself that has negative connotations to you.
- What’s a different, more positive word you could replace it with?
For e.g. Are you lazy or thoughtful? Are you dumb or learning? Are you overwhelmed or in demand? Are you out of shape or curvy?
- Get replacing! Write it out on a piece of paper, pin it to your wall. Repeat it in your mind over and over again.
Realising that you’re in control of the words you use to describe yourself, and choosing to empower yourself with words that make you feel good is one of the greatest acts of self-care out there. – Tweet it!
It has an immediate effect.
So give that strategy a go, and then I want to hear what words you’re gonna start swapping!
Let me know in the comments below.
Together we can create an epic list of self-talk swaps!
And, if you want to level up your self-talk spin, check out this guide I created a few weeks ago. It might help you bust out of a self-talk rut.