I’ve received stacks of parenting advice since we had Hakavai. Some solicited, some definitely unsolicited! ?
But there’s a tip that’s actually been really helpful for me.
And not just as a parent – it’s a simple mindset switch that’s helping me change the way I look at all areas of my life.
It’s actually a tip inspired by the pulchritudinous* Megan Gale, and I reckon it can help anyone change the way they see just about any situation.
Big call? Maybe.
How ‘bout I tell you, and you let me know if it works for you. Deal?
OK, let’s go.
This tip involves switching up the words you use when talking to yourself and others. When you’re faced with something that you usually find annoying, challenging or frustrating, swap the words “I have to” for “I get to”.
For example, when I get woken up at 3 am by Hakavai, instead of thinking “I have to go and feed Hakavai” I think “I get to go and feed Hakavai!”. It’s a simple mindset shift that reminds me how lucky I am to have a healthy little boy.
When I need to go to a work event that I’m maybe not in the mood for, I swap “I have to go to this event” for “I get to go to this event”. Again, it reminds me how lucky I am to get to do the work I do.
I really want you to try this!
Next time you think “Ugh, I have to go and do XXXX”, try to swap that with “I get to go and do XXXX”. It works in just about any situation …. except maybe cleaning the toilet?
I love these kinds of simple mindset switches.
They seem so innocuous, too simple to work. But when you practice them every day, you see seriously positive ripple effects throughout all areas of your life.
When you change your thoughts, you change your whole world – Tweet it!
So, give it a go. Let me know how you’re going to use this switch over in the comments below.
Can’t wait to hear what you think!
*Pulchritudinous = beautiful. There’s your new word for the day. You’re welcome!
PS – I’ve got stacks more mindset switches and tools like this inside my eBook Mindset Magic. I love this book so much (and yeah, I know it’s lame to say that you love your own book, but I really do!!). It contains all my favourite strategies for boosting your confidence, shifting your perspective and making things happen in your life. Check it out here.