Let’s talk about, um, talk.
Specifically, your self-talk.
See, it’s impossible to feel good about yourself and create the life you want when your self-talk is out of whack.
So, today I want to share one of my fave strategies from my eBook Mindset Magic.
It’s a really powerful and effective tool for changing your self-talk for the better.
Ready for it?
Let’s hand over to, well, me, but in Mindset Magic form:
Have you ever noticed that after you make a mistake, say the wrong thing or put your foot in your mouth (not literally of course, unless you’re an ex-Olympic gymnast!), you ask yourself questions like “Why am I such an idiot?”, “Why do I always stuff up?”, “Why can’t I do anything right?”
In our brain, we have what’s called the RAS – the Reticular Activating System (bear with me here – that’s as science nerd as I’m gonna get, I promise).
The RAS is basically a mini Google inside your head. So, when you ask yourself a question, it’s like typing that question straight into your internal Google search bar.
Whatever you search for, you’ll find.
So, if you wanted to buy a red car, you’ll start to notice them everywhere. Your RAS presents evidence for the things you think about or ask questions about.
Likewise, if you make a mistake at work and immediately ask yourself a crappy question like, “Why am I such an idiot?” your brain will start searching for evidence to prove that you’re an idiot!
All of a sudden you’ll start thinking about all the other times you’ve messed up.
Your RAS doesn’t discriminate.
It will just find the answers to the questions you ask.
So if you ask yourself a better question like, ‘What can I learn from this?’, your brain will start the search and come up with answers that are more helpful.
Something like “Maybe next time I can double check my work”.
Your mindset is critical for failure or success.
And part of the shift in mindset is simply asking yourself better questions.
It’s that easy.
Remember, when you ask better questions you get better answers. – Tweet it!
What are some smarter questions you can start asking yourself? Let me know in the comments below.
PS – I’ve also put together this PDF for you. It’s a list of word swaps and other activities you can try to quickly spin your self talk. It will help you stop berating yourself every time you lose your keys, and help you feel more confident, and positive about yourself in minutes. It’s free to download here. So you can print it out, stick it on your fridge, and start spinning your self talk.