As you may know, something I get asked about A LOT is confidence.
People wanna know how I have it and what they can do to get it.
So let’s go there. Today, I wanna hit you with a confidence-boosting tip you can start using RIGHT NOW.
I’ll begin with a story.
When I was a kid, I was obsessed with reading. I devoured every book on our bookcase and lived for trips to the library.
I read all kinds of stories, but the ones filled with adventure and exploration captivated my attention in an all-consuming way. When I read these stories, I felt like the hero. I could lose myself in their fear, their curiosity, and their triumph.
Being a kid with a pretty active imagination, I soon found myself acting like my favourite fictional heroes in everyday life.
When I would go for a run, I pretended that I was a messenger for the queen, carrying a letter with information that would save the world from great devastation. This thought helped me to run faster.
When I was in the hospital, I pretended I was a hard-ass, tough-as-nails soldier who’d been hurt at war. This helped me put on my ‘game face’ in physio sessions, and helped me to mentally manage the pain.
It’s a habit that has stayed with me.
When I have a boring task, or when I’m facing a hard day, or just feeling low on confidence, I try to imagine a scenario that will make my work seem exciting and adventurous.
Putting on the persona of a hero, someone brave in the face of adversity – even if only for a minute – helps me to act with confidence.
I’d love for you to try this.
If you’re facing something tough right now, or maybe even just something boring, how can you inject a sense of adventure into what you’re doing?
Can you picture your favourite fictional or real-life hero, and imagine how they would see your current situation? Can you act as them and bring their attitude into your life, even for a moment?
After all, an ordeal can become an adventure – it just takes the right attitude. – Tweet it.
There are so many other ways to bring courage and adventure into your life too.
- Try an activity that pushes you outside your comfort zone (maybe rock climbing, surfing or speed skating)
- Try saying ‘yes’ to every opportunity that presents itself to you, even just for a day.
- Get outside – go for a bush walk or hike, go camping or even kayaking. Pretend you are discovering an untouched part of the world.
The point is that when you participate in something adventurous, you learn how to act with courage.
And acting with courage helps you to build confidence.
It’s an attitude that can transform your life.
Alright, now it’s over to you, I wanna hear your stories! Let me know if there’s a way you’ve turned a hard or boring time into something a little more adventurous, or how an adventure might have changed your outlook on life.
Let me know in the comments below.
FYI – I share a stack of confidence boosting tips in my eBook Mindset Magic. Maybe I’m biased ? but it’s definitely worth a read if you want to learn some simple but really effective strategies for building more confidence.
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“An ordeal can become an adventure – it just takes the right attitude” will now become my mantra.
You’re truly inspirational.
I love this tip! I get quite bad social anxiety at times. So when I’m out and feeling self conscious I pretend in my head that I’m someone super famous. So if I feel like someone is staring at me I tell myself they’re only staring because I’m famous. It sounds silly but it works!
Love this Hannah!! T x
Congratulations on the birth of your beautiful baby son. Confidence is an amazing attitude, I use to work in remote exploration(and loved it) but there were some tough test of confidence required. One trip I always remember was driving back to a remote camp at East Tropicana via what was then called the Nippon Highway a pretty rough track. I was late leaving Kalgoorlie and then ran into a truck that was bogged and tried to help tow it out. So dusk was fast approaching by the time I finished and I had a full load on my good old flat tray Toyota and at least 13-14 hrs drive a head. I had to decide would I turn back and head to Kalgoorlie or forge ahead. I knew the guys at camp had very little of anything left. I used my confidence in my self and my ability in four wheel driving to continue on in the dark alone. My objective being to reach Mulga Flats were I knew I could stop over. It was a pretty long and tedious drive with the road being flooded in many sections or washed out. I made it safely and felt very proud of myself. I was able to give a report on road conditions to the Care taker at Mulga Flats as he needed supplies too.The guys at my camp were impressed and happy to get their beers.:) So mine was a real adventure and I have had many more but on days when I have to face boredom or other hurdles I think of those amazing adventures in exploration. So thanks for the above story.
Lots of luv
Epic! That’s such a cool story (and sounds like an adventure right up my alley!), thanks Madeleine!
An adventure that changed my outlook on life:
5km fun run in Brisbane at a time in my life when felt like I was nothing!
I remember sitting on the train by myself being terrified! What if I miss the start.What if my bra straps snap. What if I just can’t make it.
I travelled from the GC by myself and did it! I finnished that run! I didn’t even run the whole way but it was the first thing I’d done for myself in a long time and it was a pivotal point in my life. I felt pretty bad ass too with the music pumping as I crossed the finnish line like I’d just run marathon.
Truth is it was a marathon in my mind for sure!
I had set out to acheive something and I did despite the feelings of despair.
I steped over a world of domestic violence, into the world of self belief for just for a short time.
Then after the race was over I went and had a beer,congratulated my self and went back to the other world with something to carry with me until the 19/02/2011 when I left my abuser and begun “living”.
It’s a bit deep, I know but it surely was an adventure that changed my outlook on life:)
Thanks so much for sharing and congratulations on everything you’ve achieved. T x
Thanks for this, T.
Today is my “yes” day
Hi Turia! This might not be quite what you had in mind, but it’s me pretending to be someone else, and it really works for me. It’s not so long since I read Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother by Amy Chua, which had me thinking gosh, I wish I had a tiger mother to push me to try harder and do better … and then I realised, I could be my own tiger mother. So now I get around going “Come on Rachel, you don’t take a break until you finish the job,” “Oh look, Rachel, that is far too much butter, do you want to get fat? Put half of it back.” “Rachel: Stop. Procrastinating.”
It might not sound like it, but it’s really quite hilarious nagging myself in this “tiger mother” voice – and yes, I do get more done that way!
My dearest Turia, I have NO words to express how grateful I am to have you as an inspiration! I tend to cut myself down sometimes but I must say when I start feeling sorry for myself I think if your examples and my ego gets a big boost!!
THANK YOU BEAUTIFUL LADY ??♥️