I’m gonna admit something – and maybe it will make me sound a bit arrogant – but I’ve always liked the idea of being “the best”. It’s always been a really powerful motivator for me.
But I’ve been thinking about this lately, and I’m not sure if “best” is what we should really be aiming for.
Let me explain.
See, the thing is, and I’m about to get a bit woo woo on you, the best only exists momentarily. The standards of best are always changing – and they’re always rooted in comparison. Comparing yourself to someone else’s achievements or even a former version of yourself.
Too woo woo?
Let me put it this way: While ‘best’ is a destination we should look at, somewhere on the horizon, what I think we should be aiming for every single day is “better”.
I’ll give you an example.
After the fire, there was this huge gap between where I was, and where I wanted to be. I was stuck in a hospital bed, unable to brush my own hair and all I wanted was to be living my best life: running again, surfing, competing in running events, starting a family with Michael and exploring the world with him.
But I couldn’t aim for that every day. The gap between where I was and where I wanted to be was too big. It was demoralising.
So, while I kept that image in the distance, I had to move my attention to solely focus on how I could make progress each day. I had to keep aiming for “better”.
It’s the same now. I’ve been for a few short runs since Hakavai was born (I’m talking a little jog around the block ?). Obviously, my fitness and strength are nowhere near where it was pre-baby!! But while I want to get to my best level of fitness in the future, I’m not focusing on that. All I can focus on is making each run a little bit “better” than the last one.
I’m 100% certain that you could apply the same approach to your life.
If you’ve got a goal or if you’re working towards something important to you, don’t let the idea of “best” stop you from getting “better”.
It’s easy to feel like giving up when there’s a big gap between where you are and where you want to be, so, just remember:
Best isn’t best. Better is. – Tweet it.
The coolest part? You can start where you are, with what you have. All you have to do is work to be a little bit better today.
So, stop aiming for best. Aim for better.
PS – If you know someone who is working towards a big goal, be a champ and share this blog post with them. It might be what they need to hear.