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Everyone’s asking me “Are you nervous?”

By November 30, 20176 Comments

Hey champ,

Well, Baby Hoskin is almost here!

As my due date gets closer, more people have been asking how I’m feeling about the birth.

“Are you nervous?” they’ll ask me.

My answer:

Yeah, of course, with any big change approaching, there’s a certain element of uncertainty. And when you know that you’re going to experience pain, that can be pretty scary.

But I’m not looking at it that way.

I’m re-framing it.

It’s the same technique I use before every major surgery I have.

I write a list of all the bad things that could happen – it’s going to hurt, I don’t know if I can do it, what if I can’t handle the pain.

Then I write a list of all the good things – how grateful I am to still be here, to have a beautiful partner like Michael, and to get to experience this. How cool it will be to meet my son. That one day I’ll be able to watch him surfing, diving and hanging with Michael.

Then I’ve got a choice how I look at it.

I could look at it in the negative way, or the empowering way.

If I look at it in the empowering way, I feel better – so that’s the way I choose.

So, if there’s something you’re finding hard, or maybe even a little scary, try this exercise.
Sit down, write out your ‘bad things’ and ‘good things’ lists and then make the choice.

Let me know what choice you make in the comments below.

It’s good to remind yourself that you’re always in control of how you see the world. Tweet it!

Alright, well champ, it’s time for me to say a mini goodbye.
I’m gonna take a bit of time off over the next month to just relax and chill with Michael (and Baby Hoskin when he gets here!).

But I don’t want to leave you without any motivation or inspo over December, so I’ve queued up some of my favourite strategies and stories to be sent out over the next month.

Don’t worry though, I will jump back in here to let you know when Baby Hoskin has arrived!

So, until then, enjoy the posts Virtual Turia has queued up for you – there’s some really good stuff in the mix (Virtual Turia has good taste).

Real Turia xx

PS – Also, did you know I’m selling a few signed copies of my books on my website? Just in time for Christmas – it’s almost like I planned it or something! ?

I’ve even bundled some signed copies of Everything To Live For and Unmasked, so you can save money when you buy them together.

Anyway, if you want to get a copy or bundle for someone you love (that includes yourself!), just head to the shop here.

Get your orders in before next week so we can ship it out to you in time (and yes, in case you were wondering, I make sure every order is packed by a Santa hat-clad member of Team Turia, while Wham!’s Last Christmas plays loudly in the background. You’re welcome).


  • Hayden says:

    That’s really helpful! Thanks Turia. I’m trying to learn this technique for my day-to-day life. It’s difficult, but each day I improve. Best of luck for the rest of your pregnancy! ❤️

  • Colleen says:

    Hi Turia,

    Firstly, I have to say , of all the people I follow, it’s your messages that I love the most. I love your style of writIng. Sassy and engaging and obviously, your words of wisdom inspire and motivate me.

    Secondly, I can’t speak for every woman out there but, when I was giving birth, my whole birthing plan went out of the window. The scenario I had in my head, was listening to music whilst gently and elegantly giving birth in a dimly lit room. The reality was, I vomited, went from freezing cold to boiling hot. These primal, guttural screams were escaping from my body with every convulsion. I sounded like I was possessed. It hurt like hell but, once I held my gorgeous daughter in my arms, it was all forgotten. I would have done it all over again in a heartbeat. That was 14 years ago and I am still completely amazed and thrilled to be a Mother. Wishing you all the best possible birth and many years of utter joy and happiness ahead.

  • Julie says:

    So excited for you and Michael with the birth of your son fast approaching. Wishing you all the best lovely lady.
    Your email came just at the right time. I was feeling a bit low but you made me realise I have so much to be grateful for.
    Julie xx

  • Esther Coghlan says:

    Thanks so much for the post. I love the reminder that I’m in control of how I see the world!
    Best wishes for all that’s coming your way soon Turia! Such a special time for you & Michael. Enjoy !

  • Allan McCorquodale says:

    Hello Turia (and Michael)
    I have been a RFS volunteer for 33 years and have been to many fires. I have been very hot but have never been burnt so I don’t know how you feel.
    I have seen your story from the initial news broadcasts through the rehab stories (I think 60 mins) and I am amazed at your determination to keep going.
    I think I would have given up. Your training for the marathon proves you had a lot of determination to start with and that has carried you through. You are lucky to have had Michaels support and love as this is something that i don’t think anyone could do on their own.
    Congratulations on having a new family member. We have 2 children who arrived with no problems who are now 31 and 28. We were so excited even though we didn’t encounter any problems. After all you have been though it must be EXTRA special to have your own baby.
    Best wishes to you and your whole family.

  • Laura says:

    You are so inspiring you blow my mind honestly
    Thank you so much xxx