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How I learnt to love myself

By July 4, 2021No Comments

Hey mate,

I want to take you back to 2011…

It’s less than a month since I’ve been burnt and I’m trapped in the intensive care unit with a tracheostomy, covered head to toe in bandages, tubes going up each and every orifice to empty contents and replace fluids.

I’m high as a kite on pain medication and a nurse comes into the room. She busies herself at her wheelie-table. Big bottles of fluid are snipped open. Crinkly packages are ripped open. Latex gloves are snapped over painted fingernails. She proceeds briskly in my direction and methodically starts shearing through my bandages with her shiny scissors.

Snip, snip, snip.

I feel the thick bandages fall away from my damaged skin.

The smell that hits me is vile and I see the nurse recoil as well. I’m whipped out of my high and into reality. My legs are bloody and clotted and revolt me to my core.

So, how did I get from self-hatred and loathing and revulsion to a place of self-love?

That’s a big question!

One that I tackled with the crew inside RUN with Turia this week.

I shared a few strategies and tips for getting started with your self love journey with the RUN crew, but I wanted to share one small insight with you too:

“I change best by feeling good, not by feeling bad”.
That’s a quote from BJ Foggs.

What does it mean?
Well, let’s say you want to start a habit of waking up earlier in the morning.

OK? Great!

But if you start beating yourself up every time you sleep through your alarm, telling yourself that this isn’t going to work, and that you’re stupid and lazy …. well, that’s not gonna do anything except make you feel like crap.

I’d rather you focused your energy congratulating yourself every time you do go to bed a little earlier, and every time you do get up when the alarm goes off.

Focusing on those small wins helps you to feel good.
And that’s a place that change can happen from.

So, if you’re looking for a way to start your self-love journey, start by celebrating the small wins.

In fact, I’d love you to start right now.

Can you share a small win from your week with me?
Pop it in the comments below.

I’d love to celebrate with you.
Turia x